You know what they say about gay boys and their mums! I have always been close to Mum. She is the one who outed me when I was 18. As a teenager I was always into fashion magazines, make-up and styling. I was becoming a fan of fashion designers and had started helping Mum with her styling, trying to be constructive! We’d go shopping and I’d try to get her to buy the sexy top and not the mum top.
Mum is a typical Jewish mother – she worries about everything in life, but it’s all from the place of deepest love. She just wants me to be happy.
Mom has a great sense of humour, too. She was born in New Jersey and partied in her youth. She lived in San Francisco in 1975 and 1976 with her brother and sister in the Castro District. They had a best friend who was gay and were always around gay people. It was the decade for it! When I was a kid I found a photo of Mum at a Gay Pride march surrounded by drag queens and I often wondered what was going on there!
My first kiss was with a girl called Bridget at 14. She was from LA, four years older and in the same theatre school. She asked me if I wanted to smoke cigarettes on the beach and I said yes. We did that, then made out.
My singing teacher, Lynne Broyles, was a big influence in my life. I took singing lessons from her outside school hours and she started her own theatre company at the same time. She saw what I was before I could even say it.
Lynne created a safe space without outing me. She dressed me in drag for a role as a teenager – a shock to the other mothers and kids – but to Lynne it was entertainment. She introduced me to gay icons like Barbra Streisand, Liza Minnelli and Cher. She not only made me a better singer, she gave me a whole world of entertainment to digest.
My first roommate, Johanna, was a strong, independent and feisty girl who made me feel more confident about being gay. She’s a Leo, self-assured and funny. Living with her was just what I needed at that time in my life. She’s now a mother of two.
I was in a long-term relationship with [Finnish TV host] Sauli Koskinen from 2010 to 2013. That’s what I want in the long run, once the circumstances can support it. Deep down I am a romantic, but I am so busy travelling with work that it’s hard to make permanent connections.
I am very fortunate to find the love connections where I find them. I treat them with the utmost respect, but a lot of them are temporary. That’s just my life. I like to stay in touch to see if we can build a friendship and maybe see each other again.
I am anti-traditional. I don’t know about marriage and kids – I don’t think you have to get married to prove your commitment to somebody. Right now I don’t have enough time for kids. If I had a child I would want to have one with a partner and want to be as selfless as possible.
Adam Lambert’s album Velvet is out now.
This article appears in Sunday Life magazine within the Sun-Herald and the Sunday Age on sale May 17.
Jane Rocca is a regular contributor to Sunday Life Magazine, Executive Style, The Age EG, columnist and features writer at Domain Review, Domain Living’s Personal Space page. She is a published author of four books.